• Sethayy@sh.itjust.works
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    4 months ago

    Pickme to me means someone that always tries to steal the spotlight, an individual (though I’m not too up to date on my buzzwords admittedly).

    I also agree trans people don’t need to cater to others, but also we don’t need to be dicks cause yeah that’s just gonna enforce peoples bias’ - leave that shit to reddit/twitter.

    • Norah - She/They@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      4 months ago

      Yes, and as it applies to talking about respectability politics, it refers to someone who goes out of their way to make themselves palatable to non-queer people for the purposes of being “one of the good ones”.

      And you’re still doing it with this “leave that shit” line. Like, I don’t go out of my way to be a dick to folks that are genuinely curious and want to learn more. But someone who waltzes into a space that’s for trans people and runs their mouth? No, I will not be polite to them. Telling me I should has the same energy as an old man telling a woman to “smile more”. So, please kindly f*ck off.

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        4 months ago

        I feel you have a lot of previous assumptions about my viewpoint, and are more angry at your construction of me than what I’m actually saying

        • Norah - She/They@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          4 months ago

          …leave that shit to reddit/twitter.

          No, no I’m upset at what you’re saying and it’s implications. There honestly isn’t much I despise more than queer people telling other queer people how to react to cishet people’s aggressions. I personally find it more insidious than the aggressions themselves.

    • marcie (she/her)@lemmy.mlM
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      4 months ago

      I’m absolutely going to be a dick to cis people invading our space. I do hope you get over this hangup though