It’s a sunny day, we’re outside, good mood, drinking a coffee. I try to strike a conversation, my gf says its too early for philosophical discussions. I tell her we can instead talk about whatever she feels like. She says she doesn’t want to talk about anything. We weirdly sit in silence for a while. I tell her it’s weird to me, we argue. Is this normal?
Based on your other comments of mentioning she was on the phone, it sounds like what was really bothering you was that the phone was getting attention and you weren’t. So just say that.
You definitely need to get comfortable with having quiet time where you’re both just reading, goofing off on the phone, or whatever. You can’t talk 100 percent of the time.
If the actual silence is an issue just throw on some music. I can’t think of a nicer time than starting the day with some coffee and music.
Noted, thank you :)