• ameancow@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    What does random women he has nothing to do with having piercings have to do with him?

    Are you not a native English speaker? Do you understand that people can give opinions and critique of things they don’t like without it meaning an expectation that someone is going to DO something for them? You immediately made some random, innocuous comment about someone’s aesthetic tastes into an issue about entitlement and I assume implications about sex? Don’t you get how fucking weird that is? It betrays something on YOUR mind specifically that nobody here is talking about.

    Do you think people shouldn’t have fashion preferences? Do you think humans can’t or should not have feelings about things? Every comment you make here just makes it weirder.

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      disappointed dɪsəˈpɔɪntɪd

      adjective

      1. sad or displeased because someone or something has failed to fulfil one’s hopes or expectations.
      2. (of hopes or expectations) prevented from being realized.

      Here saved you a Google search lmao 😂

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        What is your point? Did a billboard with the word “disappointment” fall on your great uncle and kill him?

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          No I’m saying that using that term implies an expectation for those women that they are failing to meet. I am asking why he has an expectation for random women to not get those piercings. Re-read my comment omg 🙄

          You also accused me of not knowing how to speak English while seemingly not understanding what the word dissappointed means.

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            I’ve re-read your comment dozens of times trying to understand why this concept is lost on you, that it’s FINE to be disappointed with someone’s fashion choices, be it someone you know personally, or a generalized view of trends. It’s OKAY. It doesn’t MEAN anything other than, some people like things and other people do not. I too feel a sense of disappointment when people with otherwise pretty features accessorize it in ways that distract or detract from my preference. AND THAT’S ALSO OKAY.

            You know what else? You’re ALSO allowed to be disappointed with how some people dress, talk, act or just about ANYTHING else that you like or don’t like. This is called being an adult human with values, taste and self-esteem.

            Whatever cartoonish picture jumped into your head of some “alpha male” casting judgement on women he wants to sleep with, which I think you’re picturing here, that shit is coming from a place of insecurity or pain inside YOU, this is not an objectifying or entitled attitude to express or hold. Disappointment with someone’s choices is a normal and healthy thing that men and women feel and express all the time and sure it can become toxic in extreme circumstances, it’s nowhere NEAR that to just express not liking a thing.

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              He didn’t say someone in particular. He said he was “disappointed so many girls” are getting those piercings. That doesn’t imply specific women, it implies women in general.

              It’s fine for him not to like them, I’m calling out his use of language and how it implies that all women are beholden to some expectation he has for them.

              The rest of your comment is genuinely bizarre and I have no idea what you’re even talking about. Read through the comment tree again. I never said anything about who the commenter was. Just calling out something he said and the implication inherent in it.

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                  Youre mischaracterizing what I said as though I made some comment about the commenter having preferences. Which is not and never was what I said.

                  If you’re going to call out something I said and the implication in it, at least tell me what I said that you’re calling out and what the implication was in what I said.

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      He used the word dissappontment holy shit do you not know what the word means??

      He used that word I’m no fucking misinterpreting him lmao

      I never said people shouldn’t have opinions on fashion choices omfg I was literally calling out his framing of that opinion 😂 yall are tripping omg haha

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          That’s not what I said. I questioned why he said he is disappointed with what random women are doing with their bodies. I can paste the definition of the word here if you don’t know what it means.

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            What makes my member engorged is seeing women with giant ear lobes. I am disappointed that I don’t see more of them / that more women don’t have giant ear lobes dragging on the ground.

            Why I am disappointed? Because I think the world needs more beauty, and I like having my member engorged, and giant, floppy earlobes do both things.

            Now, if you are going to twist my words into claiming that I think all women should have their ears flapping loosely in the wind, that is where you are having problems.

            In your world, disappointment is something that must be fixed and corrected. Well, I’m sorry to say, but much like your sexual partners, disappointment is something we all have to learn to live with.

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              I’m not upset with the concept of disappointment. I’m calling out the fact that saying he’s disappointed with women for having piercings is a statement about how women’s bodies should be. It’s saying that women are beholden to an expectation of how their bodies should be, and that when they have nipple piercings they are failing to meet his expectations of them.

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                Why do you focus on the word “expectations”? The definition you yourself posted in this thread clearly mentions “hopes OR expectations”. I think the use of the term “disappointment” in this case refers to the “hopes” part. You can hope for something from someone without expecting it from them.