Firstly: I’m reasonably sure these women are just kvetching. I often say ‘I’d rather drink piss’ to express that I don’t like something. Obviously I’m not actually going to drink piss.

Secondly…I do agree it’s a bit much to compare men to a deadly 1200 pound predator. I would be a bit fed up of hearing that too if I were a guy.

Thirdly…that said…I understand WHY women say that even if it’s a bit ridiculous. I’ve had a male friend completely turn on a dime and send me rape threats while drunk. I pleaded and tried to reason with him for about 20 minutes before I completely snapped and threatened to do things to him with a hunting knife that I won’t detail because there’s no need to make people vomit. Only then did he back off and switch to making excuses and blaming his autism. It was terrifying because there was no reasoning with him. He LIKED that I was frightened and freaked out. It gave him a pleasurable power rush. The only reason he backed off was the threat of said hunting knife.

A bear isn’t malicious. A bear just wants to eat. A bear can be redirected or avoided. You can do things such as wear a bell or carry mace or put up an electric fence around a tent. A man isn’t necessarily malicious but IF he is…those precautions won’t do jack poopsies because he consciously knows the woman doesn’t want it and LIKES the act of stomping on boundaries.

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    I’m reasonably sure these women are just kvetching.

    I love how sooooo many men are just absolutely certain that sooooo many women are just completely wrong about their own feelings and instincts.

    You’re wrong. You are absolutely, completely, fucking wrong. We’re not “just kvetching”, we’re serious. I would absolutely 100% prefer to be alone in the woods with a bear, than to be alone in the woods with a man.

    This is one of the things that I find most infuriating about this whole hypothetical, the number of men who are absolutely convinced that a woman’s very logical threat calculations is somehow “less”. We’re “just kvetching”, we’re “not thinking rationally”, we’re “reacting emotionally”, we’re “paranoid”, etc etc etc.

    STOP NEGATING WOMEN’S LIVED EXPERIENCES JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU KNOW BETTER. YOU DON’T.

    Fucking patronizing assholes.

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      7 months ago

      I’m a woman. Take your fucking tantrum elsewhere. Maybe read my OP in which I talk about rape threats from a drunken 200 pound man.

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      I’m sympathetic to your feelings about how some men have responded to this in general, but Op is clearly a woman if you read the whole post.