So I’m not sure if I can or should continue my relationship with my fiance or try to fix things. We’ve been together for two years now. When we first started dating they said that they were working on finishing their masters degree but they have not done so. They also said they’d be going back to work after they finished their degree. They have just been running through their savings and staying at home. They do most of the chores but the house is often a bit of a mess. Now they’re saying that they want to wait until after kids to go back to work. My family also thinks it is a bad idea to marry them.

  • @1984
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    12 days ago

    Are you having two fiances? Why do you say they? Is it to not show gender?

    I think it’s funny how it becomes intentionally confusing and unclear who you are talking about. :)

      • dumples
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        -112 days ago

        When talking about child rearing there are some gendered expectations. Whether there should be is a different story but currently there are. But besides that gender is mostly irrelevant in these stories but can be important. Age is generally more important for these kind of advice.

    • @Carnelian@lemmy.world
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      512 days ago

      Literally didn’t even notice until I read this then went back up and checked the post lol. Not confusing at all imo

    • @kenopsik@lemm.ee
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      312 days ago

      Why do you need to know the gender of the partner? That it not important to know, nor does it matter. This just tells me you have preconceived notions about how they should act and want to formulate your response based on their gender. And if any of the post is confusing to you, you just have poor reading comprehension. :)