Title and image source from this Mastodon toot by fatsam@mstdn.social. I even took the damn title because I couldn’t think of anything more apt.

As always, respect my trans homies or I make your pronouns was/were.

  • @Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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    95 months ago

    I didn’t mean to negate your whole point, more like “welcome to the club.”

    Trans men and cis men with feminine attributes face lowered status and abuse because female=less. Trans men face a different kind of abuse because they are seen as trying to assert their membership in the “superior” group. This is all in addition to the abuse they all face for simply being other than the “norm”.

    There’s definitely a smattering of full-on “man bad” out there, but don’t mistake “that man bad” or “patriarchy bad” for “all men bad” or “manliness bad” (assuming it’s a healthy manliness and not toxic masculinity).

    Society is still pretty tipped in favor of men, just look at car safety tests and medicine trials, both of which routinely exclude women entirely.

    • @Cryophilia@lemmy.world
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      75 months ago

      Ah, okay, that makes sense. Sorry, I just assumed you were refuting my point. I agree with everything you’re saying. A lot of times whenever someone brings up male struggles, someone chimes in with “we shouldn’t worry about this because women have it worse”, so I might be a bit overly sensitive.

      • @Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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        45 months ago

        That’s okay, I totally get that. It often happened (perhaps still is, haven’t been there in awhile) in Reddit 2X that a thread about a woman’s problem would be brigaded by men saying they had it worse, overwhelming the initial discussion because of their greater numbers. I certainly don’t mean to do that, even if we did have the numbers.