Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.
    • @perestroika@slrpnk.netEnglish
      5•8 months ago

      Wow, where in the world and how (without compromising anonymity or operational security :P ) can one get access to health care via marriage?

      • @blindbunny@lemmy.mlEnglish
        6•8 months ago

        I worked for some big financial corporation. She was a dog groomer. By the time she was diagnosed she was $10k in debt. After we got married she got access to my healthcare and only then could she afford to get treatment.

          • @blindbunny@lemmy.mlEnglish
            4•8 months ago

            Once she told me I looked up men that stuck with relationships after diagnosis… And struggled to find anyone. Then I looked up support groups. Changing the locks after diagnosis, not picking them up from the hospital and blocking their numbers. Breaking up completely healthy relationships, over something they had no control over. Scared the shit out of me. We weren’t serious before that but I didn’t want her to have to go through that. Let alone not be able to afford treatment… That’s a whole other horror story…