I’m nonbinary femme. I don’t like masculine or male terms. A few days ago, I was on a group chat with someone and they said “this guy” and used “he/him” pronouns, not knowing my gender. I, however, told them not to address me as a guy and that I preferred neutral terms but was fine with feminine terms as well.
Good, but what was controversial about that?
I may have been rude saying “Don’t address me as a man”
No, this is straightforward.
I am not a transgender but my name has a shorter version. I don’t like it and I ask others not to call me like that when they call me like that. How would they know otherwise?
You were not rude. They were rude if they refused to accept your request.