For context (if you’re a sane person and not extremely online), researcher William Costello recently did a simple, anonymous Twitter poll. Men and women were invited to rate pictures of British singer Olly Murs when he was huskier vs. when he really hit his gym goals and became legitimately shredded.
Some people simply look better with a few extra pounds on 'em. Apparently William Costello is one such person.
If you are a person who doesn’t find the ultra fit look attractive then don’t date someone who has it. If you are a person who thinks you can only attract attention by having the ultra-fit look you are wrong. Simple. No gendering is necessary.