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      I hope I don’t catch flak for this, but part of me feels bad for adults attracted to minors that DON’T want to be. Like fuck shameless pedophiles that actively prey on children, but I’d image there’s also people out there who quietly live with the disorder and fucks their life up. There was a documentary I watched by Louis Theroux once about a special prison just for pedophiles and it was kind of sad. Like it’s obvious they weren’t getting the help they needed inside and it was just a place to hold them so they wouldn’t be murdered in prison. The only real way out was voluntary chemical castration and come on that’s pretty barbaric.

      It sucks you can’t approach or talk about these people without the baggage of violent pedophiles who actually hurt people.

      idk hope I’m not too off base here.

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        You’re not off base at all. Being attracted to children is not the issue here (and people shouldn’t be stigmatized for that alone). The real issue is the willingness to traumatize others just for a few minutes of pleasure, which isn’t exclusive to pedophiles.

        But because this whole topic so incredibly emotionally charged, people really can’t differentiate between those 2 things, which makes any sort of discussion pretty much impossible.

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          The real issue is the willingness to traumatize others just for a few minutes of pleasure, which isn’t exclusive to pedophiles.

          I actually remember reading about a study that was carried out on a group of inmates who had been sentenced for sexually abusing children, and apparently it showed that a majority of them weren’t actually pedophiles in the clinical sense, as in having a primary sexual preference for children, but were rather opportunists who chose children as victims out of convenience. Children are easier to manipulate both mentally and physically than adults, so that’s what they went for.

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            I have read a similar study about people caught with CSAM. They largely weren’t attracted to children, they just wanted the rush of looking at something unacceptable.

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          The real issue is the willingness to traumatize others just for a few minutes of pleasure, which isn’t exclusive to pedophiles.

          Exactly, like it’s so extremely normalized for men to just reduce down the target of their lust into a depersonalized sex-thing to control and own and use for their own entertainment. This is what I think is at the heart of how reactionaries breathlessly try to draw lines between pedophilia (the disorder) and the crime of preying on teenagers, because the latter is just a slight realignment downwards from what they are already believe is normal and ok (men controlling and exploiting women), and they see hurting and exploiting people as fine but being “weird” as an intolerable mortal insult.

          Also ever since the “height gap discourse” thread I’ve been stuck with the realization that the problem is not that someone being attracted to a short woman who is not well endowed is “icky”, it’s the literally everything else that goes along with projecting one’s desires onto someone who does not and/or fundamentally cannot reciprocate them, the dehumanization and reduction of a person down to just a fetish object to be taken and owned, the innate power imbalance and how it facilitates abuse and control, even the ephemerality of someone wanting to have someone for a trait that they will inevitably stop having in short order. All of these are problems with how toxic the accepted “normal” male expression of sexuality in our society is, because these are horrible issues when they’re directed at adults and they only get worse as their targets get younger, with the power imbalance increasing and increasing and the way that genuine enthusiastic consent stops even being a hypothetical possibility.

          people really can’t differentiate between those 2 things,

          That and the fact that an overwhelmingly large amount of people who are just “harmlessly” indulging in lolicon hentai or similar victimless art are also virulent misogynistic fascists who are actively getting more alienated and radicalized into right wing bile because it validates their self-serving, dehumanizing desires and twists any feelings of guilt or self-loathing into outwardly directed violence, all the while further conditioning and reinforcing their desires and probably tacking on a whole bunch of revolting rationalizations to it too.

          It seems like the number of people who have a genuine disorder that gives them intrusive thoughts that are at odds with their ethical beliefs is extremely small compared to the population that’s just “typical shitty fascist straight guy whose brain has rotted to the point that his accepted targets of lust include young teens and children, and has become obsessed with the latter because of brainworms.”

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            someone being attracted to a short woman who is not well endowed is “icky”

            Wait, there are people on here who actually believe this? I must have missed this lol

            Like what would they expect women who are built like that to do with that information, should they just resign themselves to being forever alone because apparently anyone who finds them attractive has to be some some weird creep that must be avoided?

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              Wait, there are people on here who actually believe this?

              That was the subject of a wild post that got linked here, uh was it sometime last year? I can’t remember if anyone actually took the side of the person in the post, but I remember it being a very long thread so it was either a slop feeding frenzy or a struggle session.

              anyone who finds them attractive has to be some some weird creep that must be avoided?

              I will mention that that seems to be a somewhat common complaint that women with more childlike figures have, that they have repeated bad experiences with guys who are treating them as “a legal alternative” and pushing age play on them or just being kind of creepy and as a result are immediately suspicious of anyone who’s into them.

              Although “repeated bad experiences with guys” is also a normal straight woman thing.

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                I will mention that that seems to be a somewhat common complaint that women with more childlike figures have, that they have repeated bad experiences with guys who are treating them as “a legal alternative” and pushing age play on them or just being kind of creepy and as a result are immediately suspicious of anyone who’s into them.

                Sorry, but I don’t buy this. This sounds like something that only exists on the internet.

                • There was a documentary (vice, I think?) with a woman with a genetic disorder that makes her look like tween. She says dating is really hard because there’s tons of creeps who are attracted to her only because she looks like a child, and the few good men she meets are always on edge about being seen having a romantic relationship with someone who looks like a child.

                  This is an extreme case, but all this to say that it happens.

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              Wait, there are people on here who actually believe this?

              There’s a difference between “This is a woman who I am attracted to, and she has x and y features that you could call neotenous if you really wanted to” vs “I specifically have a sexual attraction to more neotenous women”

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        I agree with you, “pedophile” and “child abuser” aren’t synonyms and pedophilia itself is a mental illness, I don’t see why anyone would “choose” to be a pedophile and we absolutely should at least try to help non-offenders who want to get better.

        However you seemingly can’t bring this up without getting labelled a pedo sympathiser so I just don’t bother anymore.

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          I don’t see why anyone would “choose” to be a pedophile

          It is worth noting that there are people who don’t seem to have the mental illness (nor are victims of CSA) but seem to like it as a power thing, ranging from weebs to soldiers.

          But you are right there are people who just have the mental illness, are revolted at the idea of hurting children, and desperately need help that doesn’t impugn on their character for something that isn’t their fault.

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        I read an article a long while ago about a group of people who were sexually attracted to children, and didn’t want to be. It was really sad. But a key thing was they weren’t abusing anyone and didn’t want to. I don’t think those people deserve to be crucified. It’s better if they can reach out for help. I think right now if someone admitted what their involuntary response was, they’d be lumped in with the worst sorts of abusers.

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        I mean, it shows empathy, which is one of the most important things to have

        We can’t have a functioning society if everyone is constantly suspecting each other of being a “deviant” which is exactly why the old canard of “Think about the children!” comes from

        Personally, I’m a lot more worried about the men who beat their step kids to death, the women who starve their children and a government which allows any of this to happen

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        If you want to reduce occurences of abuse I think it would make good sense to make sure that pedophiles had easy and anonymous access to non-judgemental therapy. We would like as many as possible to seek professional help.

        As for those actually convicted of abuse the same principle applies, they need help, not just for their own sake but certainly also for the children’s sake.

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        So heres the thing. If someone is in prison for it, it means they commited a crime. Thoughts are not crimes. Feelings are not crimes. Those people did an action that got them in prison. Just like you can want to murder somebody, but not do it because you know murder is bad.

        Would it be nice if we had a society where the people silently suffering could go get the help they need, and get their mind right? Yeah. But those people in prison deserve to be there. Never forget that. Even if those people were to be somehow magically made to not be pedophiles anymore they would STILL be a danger to society. The crimes they commited reflect their own wants, but their willingness to commit the crime is another matter entirely. IMO the punishment for the crimes those people committed should be execution. Chemical castration is way too merciful.

        So you are right that the underlying chemical imbalance, or whatever causes it isn’t something that should doom someone. It’s not their fault they’re attracted to what they are. BUT it is their fault if they act on it, and they don’t deserve your sympathy.

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          If someone is in prison for it, it means they commited a crime.

          Are we on a communist board mostly populated by Americans where you are saying that everyone in prison is actually guilty of what they were convicted of? I’m not saying it’s that common for people to be falsely accused of CSA (I have no idea), but people get put in prison for terrible crimes that they didn’t commit all the time.

          But those people in prison deserve to be there. Never forget that.

          It’s better for people to be rehabilitated and contribute constructively to society. There is no “deserving” punishment. Either they need to be put away for the time being for the common good, or you’re literally just torturing someone.

          IMO the punishment for the crimes those people committed should be execution. Chemical castration is way too merciful.

          Never mind, you’re just being a retributive sicko. I won’t speculate on your root motivation for saying it (every possibility that I can think of is pretty rude to suggest) but you’re just advocating for complete barbarism in a way that’s divorced from any serious path to make society better. Just “kill the baddies.”

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            This was not a discussion about the effectiveness of the American legal system. My comment was already long enough without taking the time to hash out whether or not each specific justice system is able to correctly determine who commits crimes and who doesnt. I was simply putting a contrast between those who may have pedophillic thoughts but do not act on them, and those who do.

            It is not about punishment. People who commit crimes like this against children are a danger to them, and need to be kept away from them by force. This is not to punish the person who did it, but to protect every child in society.

            Would i be a retibutive sicko to advocate for the execution of Nazis? Or Hitler himself? Execution is something China uses for these exact situations. People who do things like this to children are a danger to every child, and a 0 tolerance policy is the best way to protect children. Being merciful towards them does not make society better. It makes it more dangerous.

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              It is not about punishment

              I don’t know which one of us you’re lying to.

              But those people in prison deserve to be there. Never forget that.

              “Deserve” is not a term of utility and consequence. “Deserve” means that they should suffer in prison even if there is no external benefit. You aren’t talking about protecting children, something everyone obviously agrees with, you are trying to assert as self-evident the need to inflict suffering for its own sake and then masking that with language about protecting children. Does that remind you of anyone?

              Aside from the absolutely ridiculous and disgusting way that you made sweeping statements about prisoners as though the justice system is that dedicated to justice, something you can’t just paper over by saying “oh, I didn’t want to get lost in the weeds in my ‘fuck people in prisons’ rant,” you’re also treating people who have done wrong as though they can’t change, as though their souls are just inferior to yours. Here, one might be tempted to speculate why you are choosing to categorize people this way, but I’m still going to refrain. How do I know you’re doing this? Because I said:

              Either they need to be put away for the time being for the common good, or you’re literally just torturing someone.

              And you could have just said “yeah”

              Would i be a retibutive sicko to advocate for the execution of Nazis? Or Hitler himself?

              This is an insipid comparison, but regardless the answer in the context of a powerful and wealthy state is that yes, executing people to satisfy your own impotent sense of moral outrage is bad and you shouldn’t do it. If you’re in the midst of a revolution or some other very tenuous situation, or you really need to pick and choose which mouths to feed, yeah, fuck 'em, even if they aren’t criminals someone ultimately may need to go for the common good. But we aren’t talking about that kind of situation, we are talking about an abundantly wealthy civil society that doesn’t need to behave like it’s under artillery fire.

              Execution is something China uses for these exact situations

              I was also withholding remarks on how you’re an embarrassment to your communist aesthetic and much more at home with punitively-minded reactionaries, but here I have constructive reason to remark on it: Do you know whose side represents China’s stance back when it cared about Mao for any reason beyond nationalism? Mine. Mao made it a specific point of pride that even Emperor Puyi himself (along with countless KMT and even Japanese soldiers) were rehabilitated and able to participate in society constructively as good socialists. The current policy of the state that uses Mao’s corpse as a costume is absurd and unjustifiable.

              Being merciful towards them does not make society better. It makes it more dangerous.

              You are so caught up in your To Catch a Predator fantasy that you are missing several practical aspects of the common good, not the least of which being that we aren’t asking God, in His omniscience, to strike down predators, and killing innocent people should indeed be considered a danger to society.

              Furthermore, no one is saying we should “tolerate” predators, like you catch a Catholic priest doing the Catholic priest thing and say “well, everyone gets one!” The point is that you are speaking of these people as some sort of elemental force, metaphysically bound by their dirty souls to hurt people and hurt people. Should they be kept on a registry for the rest of their life? Yeah, I think so, but that doesn’t mean they remain predators and are beyond any rehabilitation, even if it takes years of the state keeping them in some facility to accomplish that end.

              You seriously sound like TYT talking about bail reform.

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                Typical westerner who says all AES states are bad, and takes a single word someone says and tries to read entire worldviews into it. Putting so much effort into trying to spin what i said as somehow inhumane when i was clearly making a distinction between people who actively choose to be child predators, and those who do not. Not making statements as to the effectiveness of the American justice system.

                Then talking about rehabilitation for people like that as if its the same thing as rehabilitating an emperor who was ignorant and insulated, and whose crimes were systemically taught to him as a good thing/necessary his entire life.

                These people went against what is societally acceptable in their own societies. To harm children in the most despicable way possible in order to fufill their own desires. Regardless of how nice to might sound to say we can just “Fix” them we cant. We don’t know how. If one day we figure out WHY they do what they do, and how we can fix them then sure we can do that. But its not something we know how to do.

                To let them walk the streets again registry or not is untenable. Did you read the article i sent you? Those men China executed commited long-term coordinated crimes against children to the point some of those children took their own lives. You would what? Put them in jail for a few years then put them on a list, release them, and hope they don’t do it again? That is absolutely irresponsible and ridiculous. It not only allows those very people to go commit the same crimes again, but tells others who might think of doing those crimes that they will survive it even if caught.

                As for your focus on “deserve” for some reason. As the original comment was talking about people who don’t want to be pedophiles, but are. I was making a distinction. The people in jails for it are the ones who DID act on it. Hence they deserve to be imprisoned and are in a seperate category than those who DID NOT act on it. Because i was pointing out how people do not get sent to prison for simply thinking pedophillic things and never acting on it. It’s the action that gets them arrested.

                As for you refusal to see my point on the justice system i will remind you America is not the only country on earth. Why would i bring up America centric issues like its justice systems tendency to wrongfully convict when talking about a global issue. On top of that the justice system in any nation does not exist to get 100% of its convictions right all the time anyway. It exists, in a functional nation atleast, to ensure stability. You can’t just allow criminals who would harm others to walk around freely. So we have to rely on imperfect systems that sometimes can get it wrong. We take efforts to make them get it wrong less often of course, but it’s just something that happens.

                This is why we have trials, and we treat a conviction of a crime as confirmation that someone DID do that crime not because it is correct 100% of the time, but because it is more often than not correct, and it is the only mechanism we have to determine someones innocence or guilt. If you want to advocate for a different system to do this then that’s great, and i hope you find one that gets the answer right more often. It’s not relevant to this conversation though. Justice systems vary by country, and sometimes even regions within a country. The effectiveness of these is something each nation has to handle on its own. Until then we have no choice but to assume those convicted are guilty as that is the entire point of having trials. To throw out that assumption wholesale would lead to having no mechanisms to determine guilt or innocence at all.

                Anyway to close yes i allign politically with modern day China on most things. If you consider that to mean i am “Aesthetically Communist” and actually some sort of reactionary then thats great for you. Personally i think that your the one being aesthetically communist while refuting any system that actually works to empower the workers. Let me guess your a big fan of european socialist communes that ultimately failed? Certain westerners tend to love socialism as long as it doesnt actually threaten capitalism in the slightest. But as soon as an AES state is successful they’re “Evil Authoritarians” lol. It’s just a coincidence that your views on China allign with US foreign policy interests right? Couldn’t possibly be because they’ve purposefully cultivated that view among their people in order to support their own goals, and keep actual leftist sentiment under control, and focused on ineffective means of combating capitalism right? So keep on despising every country that is Americas enemy for being authoritarian. It’s such an easy position to hold when your in the west I’m sure nobody gives you push back on it. Republicans, Democrats, Liberals, etc would all agree with you. China bad. DPRK bad. etc.

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                  It exists, in a functional nation atleast, to ensure stability. You can’t just allow criminals who would harm others to walk around freely. So we have to rely on imperfect systems that sometimes can get it wrong. We take efforts to make them get it wrong less often of course, but it’s just something that happens.

                  This is why we have trials, and we treat a conviction of a crime as confirmation that someone DID do that crime not because it is correct 100% of the time, but because it is more often than not correct, and it is the only mechanism we have to determine someones innocence or guilt.

                  Socially, you are right that many people treat the justice system this way, but even a hazy familiarity with leftist criticism of the justice system would tell you that for many decades this has not been the only way it has been used and conceptualized. See, some people are uncomfortable with the idea of not knowing things for certain and need to have a final decree on what is true even if it’s not really certain, but you can and indeed should treat the justice system as a way of coming to the best answer that we can determine for the moment, keeping in mind that it might be wrong and indeed we might discover a more correct answer later. That’s a major reason why the death penalty is simply bad in most cases, because you can free someone who got a life sentence wrongfully, but you can’t un-execute someone. Why not just keep them alive? It’s not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things (famously, it is more expensive in many cases to kill them), and even if they never leave the prison, they might still have the chance to do something productive. Are you really that upset to be denied the satisfaction of a hanging when it’s not even a more effective deterrent anyway?

                  It’s totally possible to have a functional justice system without playing pretend that things are more certain than they are.

                  Personally i think that your the one being aesthetically communist while refuting any system that actually works to empower the workers.

                  I think China has lots of good feature. Do you know about their 12345 hotline? That’s pretty cool.

                  Let me guess your a big fan of european socialist communes that ultimately failed?

                  I, like Marx, am a fan of the Paris Commune, but I think that I like it less than he did. I don’t know which other specific communes you are referring to, since I assume you don’t mean literally any European commune. I’m not a big fan of the ones in Spain, I think they helped Franco win. I think this is a weird thing to bring up and shows how you’re very ready to do what you falsely accused me of by wildly extrapolating views than I never hinted at and do not hold. If there’s some specific bugbear other than Paris that I can help you with though, feel free to let me know.

                  Certain westerners tend to love socialism as long as it doesnt actually threaten capitalism in the slightest.

                  I like the Paris Commune because I see it as part of a productive, revolutionary project. I generally don’t like communes because I see them as borderline-nihilistic life rafts at best. I don’t begrudge the people in them usually, I just would discourage aiming one’s activism in that direction unless the commune is meant to be a base of activism because I believe the point needs to be the destruction of imperialism and capitalist society in favor of socialism.

                  But as soon as an AES state is successful they’re “Evil Authoritarians” lol.

                  I never said such a thing about China and I don’t use that word because I think it’s thought-terminating. I like plenty of things in contemporary China that liberals would call “authoritarian” though. For example, the Firewall was a great idea and they should maintain it, though of course the eventual aspiration is to take it down.

                  It’s just a coincidence that your views on China allign with US foreign policy interests right?

                  This is the one that really got to me. I don’t think that I said anything to hint in this direction and certainly don’t believe it. If you want to say that both I and the US State Department agree because we both say that China isn’t a perfect beacon of human flourishing then sure, you got me, I’m basically a white supremacist. I don’t think the State Department is interested in China combating revisionism and spreading revolution, which are two things I would like to see from it that I don’t expect to ever happen, but I don’t think that distinction matters to you.

                  But what really bugs me is that I think China, even as a revisionist state, is still the greatest historically progressive force in the world right now, and I very much do want to see it prevail over the US. I believe the term the kids use is “critical support.”

                  Couldn’t possibly be because they’ve purposefully cultivated that view among their people in order to support their own goals, and keep actual leftist sentiment under control, and focused on ineffective means of combating capitalism right? So keep on despising every country that is Americas enemy for being authoritarian. It’s such an easy position to hold when your in the west I’m sure nobody gives you push back on it. Republicans, Democrats, Liberals, etc would all agree with you. China bad.

                  You know, the irony here is that you’ve fallen into a much more comfortable position, believing that there is a state that is Marxist superpower on the rise to be the global hegemon and lead to world communism. Yeah, you are being contrary to the neoliberal establishment, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t ultimately falling back on something that feels very secure, and I wouldn’t blame you if that was why, since it was part of why for me. Still, I do not presume to know.

                  DPRK bad

                  I think it’s funny that you jump to this one, because the DPRK (while historically progressive and worth supporting over the RoK!) is so non-Marxist that it’s not even revisionist. They openly reject dialectical materialism, embrace the explicitly permanent perpetuation of class society, and hardly even meet traditional ideas of what socialism in general is, even in what they profess, unless you use a standard so lax that it almost includes the European socdem states that we both hate (though the DPRK is historically progressive and they are not because of their respective relationships to global imperialism). I can elaborate quite a lot on this (it’s something I’ve already talked a fair bit about on this account, so you can also look up my past comments), and I can just as easily argue against the various myths the west smears them with.

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                  I apologize for the late reply. I was putting off responding to this but I’ve seen it enough times in my inbox by this point.

                  takes a single word someone says and tries to read entire worldviews into it.

                  Least important part first to get it out of the way: it’s pretty difficult to interpret “deserves” another way from how I did, and you fail to actually present a distinct meaning from my interpretation either in your last comment or here, you just sort of deflect to talking about something else while either tacitly relying on exactly the understanding of “deserving” that I explained, or talking about things consequentially instead with no relation to that term. You have failed to demonstrate that I was incorrect, you’re just doing motte-and-bailey argumentation.

                  This isn’t some matter of trivia or being woke, when you say “kill them if they’re convicted” you are effectively signing off on killing some number of innocent people and preventing retrials in the case of new evidence, which is a problem with the death penalty generally.

                  Much more interestingly, in the very same sentence as you make this accusation of me, you say:

                  Typical westerner who says all AES states are bad

                  I talked about China being revisionist, and you extrapolate it to this view, something I never said and do not believe. I don’t even think China is “bad,” at least pragmatically, and I have probably as much admiration for Cuba as you do. You took me speaking poorly of China and incorrectly overgeneralized it to my whole view of China, and then incorrectly overgeneralized that to my whole view of every nominally-socialist state everywhere, and came up with a bunch of cute details that I’ll get to in a moment. Maybe you’re the one who’s shadow-boxing in this circumstance?

                  Not making statements as to the effectiveness of the American justice system.

                  As at least one other person noted, you keep saying “people who are in prison” and things like that. You even keep saying it in this comment. The simple fact of the matter is that “people who are in prison” is not a subset of “people who are guilty of the crime they were accused of,” it’s an intersecting set. But nonetheless, you talk about how “people who are in prison” “deserve” mutilation, death, etc.

                  Then talking about rehabilitation for people like that as if its the same thing as rehabilitating an emperor who was ignorant and insulated, and whose crimes were systemically taught to him as a good thing/necessary his entire life.

                  These people went against what is societally acceptable in their own societies.

                  This is an interesting argument, but I think you’re giving Puyi a little bit too much credit here. He was aware of Japan doing colonialism and more. It’s also worth noting that he was 28 when he became a puppet emperor on behalf of Japan (though he had been a chief executive for two years prior), something far removed from being the sovereign of China that he was theoretically groomed to be and taught to value and a disgrace to his imperial predecessors (themselves despicable monarchists, but we’re meeting people where they’re at, right?). It was a cynical choice made for his own benefit.

                  In the International Military Tribunal for the Far East, Puyi testified as a witness and claimed that he was held by the Japanese against his will (Behr, 273). It was clear to the judges that Puyi was saying what was needed to protect himself. Edward Behr, the author of The Last Emperor, described Puyi as “showing himself to be a consistent, self assured liar, prepared to go to any lengths to save his skin” (278).

                  https://www.pacificatrocities.org/blog/prince-puyi-chinas-last-dynasty

                  Ironically for our conversation:

                  There is also extensive reporting on him being such a sadistic little shit that even his handlers had the wrangle him a little, but I won’t dwell on that because he was a minor then.

                  The more important thing is that it wasn’t part of his grooming to sell off his country in mass land seizures, enslavement, promoting the racial supremacy of the Japanese, and criminalizing any dissent against them. Even Unit 731 was operating within Manchukuo, his jurisdiction, and he surely wasn’t reading their “lab reports,” but it seems unlikely that he knew nothing about it. He nonetheless went along with all of it and then tried to evade responsibility however he could once it was over. If you actually care about his rehabilitation under Mao, Puyi did go on to accept responsibility for his actions and didn’t pretend to just be an ignorant child, even if there were things that he was unaware of and ways that his perspective was warped by his environment.

                  Anyway, enough about Puyi.

                  These people went against what is societally acceptable in their own societies. To harm children in the most despicable way possible in order to fufill their own desires.

                  You say this, but preying on minors is pretty normalized among some parts of society. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you about all the radio hits about fucking kids, or the child bride laws in some states, etc.

                  Regardless of how nice to might sound to say we can just “Fix” them we cant. We don’t know how. If one day we figure out WHY they do what they do, and how we can fix them then sure we can do that. But its not something we know how to do.

                  This is absolutely bizarre. As you yourself seemed to mention, the main issue here isn’t the medical condition, it is their response to it. The “why” is a question of decision-making, of personal conduct and values (and expectation of punishment or lack thereof). There is no grand mystery here, they are criminals in the same way that a wife-beater is a criminal, because they made bad choices. It might take more effort to unpack on a case-by-case basis, like with other domestic abusers, but there’s no magical curse that makes them unable to choose the right thing.

                  To let them walk the streets again registry or not is untenable. Did you read the article i sent you? . . . You would what? Put them in jail for a few years then put them on a list, release them, and hope they don’t do it again? That is absolutely irresponsible and ridiculous.

                  I would put them in prison to be rehabilitated until they are rehabilitated, and if they refuse then they’re stuck there for life. I’m not saying we have a fixed 3-year sentence and then release them, it’s a question of if and when a given individual can be released (which, for the record, I expect would take longer than 3 years).

                  It not only allows those very people to go commit the same crimes again, but tells others who might think of doing those crimes that they will survive it even if caught.

                  I know you love when I consider word choice, so I’ll do it again: “Survive”? I knew I was right to make the bail reform comparison; you’re talking like a miserable boomer. The death penalty isn’t a very effective deterrent, this has been shown again and again, and it’s especially bad in the case of prosecuting sexual violence, because if you’re already going to die for being convicted of molesting someone, why not just kill them too and avoid leaving a witness?

                  Even if you think I’m completely in the wrong on rehabilitation, you are independently demonstrating that you’ve completely sacrificed critical thinking or looking at evidence in favor of the most ill-considered “kill the baddie” reflexes because, idk, perhaps it’s cathartic to you or something. If you cared about victims, you might try actually reading about this subject. This defective reasoning is very compatible with the defectiveness of “deserving” as a moral framework, btw.

                  The people in jails for it are the ones who DID act on it.

                  And also some innocent people, statistically.

                  It’s the action that gets them arrested.

                  It’s getting charged that gets them arrested and conviction that puts them in prison. There is a strong correlation to committing the crime, but you’re not considering that the justice system is not overseen by an omniscient God.

                  As for you refusal to see my point on the justice system i will remind you America is not the only country on earth. Why would i bring up America centric issues like its justice systems tendency to wrongfully convict when talking about a global issue. On top of that the justice system in any nation does not exist to get 100% of its convictions right all the time anyway

                  Excellent, so we agree that you have no point because America’s problem is quantitative and all of these systems are fallible. I apologize for using an obvious and familiar example to you, but I’m glad you were able to extrapolate from it.

                  I have a bit more to say, so bear with me 1/

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                  3/

                  Sorry for the third comment, but I wanted to tag someone without throwing walls of text at them.

                  @xiaohongshu@hexbear.net Sorry for tagging you in an unrelated conversation, but you made some excellent comments a little bit ago on how Chinese economics has abandoned Marxism and is mostly Keynesian now (with some Austrian school freaks somehow being allowed to make a case?). I tried to find your comments but could not, do you think that you could direct me to them? I think our comrade here would benefit as well from this information.

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    I mean gamers normally have under-age fetish so an adult woman can only be a fetish for them.

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        yea

        I quit playing fire emblem because of that. I forget exactly which one, it was in the Ds/3ds era, but it was a fun enough tactics game until suddenly they introduce the “I’m a thousand year old dragon that only looks like a 6 year old girl in a bikini” character visible-disgust

        I didn’t keep playing after that

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        The anime culture around loli and shit are bizarre but what really bothered me was the story of Nobuhiro Watsuki, the author of Rurouni Kenshin, that got caught with tons of CSAM, so much that people think that he didn’t only consume that shit but produce it and distributing it. This garbage human being is still praised and the vast majority of mangakas drew shit tons of art for the commemoration of whatever many years of Rurouni Kenshin.